David the Stigma Podcast

Understanding Perspectives: From Slipknot to Survival Mode

Welcome to the latest episode of the David the Stigma Podcast! In this episode, hosts David Stigma and Loni dive deep into the realms of perspectives, expression, and the mental processes that shape our understanding of the world around us.
We begin with a light-hearted discussion on personal preferences in music, highlighting how differing tastes, such as a love or dislike for Slipknot, can illustrate broader concepts of perspective. This leads into a more profound conversation about perspective blindness and empathy, exploring why some people struggle to put themselves in others' shoes.
Loni shares insights from the collaborative problem-solving model, emphasizing the importance of learned skills like empathy and emotional regulation. The discussion also touches on the impact of childhood experiences on our ability to empathize and relate to others, referencing the influential ACEs study by Nadine Burke Harris.
We then shift focus to survival mode, discussing how constant exposure to stress and trauma can alter brain function and affect one's perspective on life. David and Loni share personal experiences and practical insights on navigating survival mode and the journey toward recovery and resilience.
Join us for an engaging and thought-provoking episode as we explore the complexities of human perspectives and the paths to understanding and empathy. Stay tuned for more enlightening discussions!

Nature vs. Nurture: How Our Past Shapes Us

Welcome to episode two of the David the Stigma podcast, hosted by David Stigma and co-host Loni. In this episode, we dive deep into the age-old debate of nature vs nurture, or as we prefer to call it, nature and nurture.
We share personal stories of our rebellious youth, the different parenting styles we experienced, and how these elements have influenced who we are today. From sneaking out as teenagers to the impact of trauma and attachment styles, we explore how our upbringing molds our character and behavior.
Join us as we discuss the importance of support, motivation, and drive in shaping successful adults. We delve into the science of neurobiology and trauma, explaining how early life experiences affect brain development and attachment styles. Whether it's secure, anxious, or avoidant attachments, we examine how these relationships impact our lives and interactions.
Tune in for an insightful conversation on how we can understand ourselves better and strive to be the best versions of ourselves. Remember, everyone has a unique journey and perspective. Let's learn, grow, and evolve together.
Enjoy the episode and stay tuned for more thought-provoking discussions. This is David and Loni, signing off.

Breaking the Silence: Understanding Men's Mental Health

Join hosts David Stigma and Loni as they tackle the often-ignored topic of men's mental health. In this extended episode, they delve into the societal pressures and stigmas that prevent men from discussing their emotions openly. Through personal anecdotes and eye-opening statistics, they highlight the critical need for emotional support and understanding.
Discover how societal expectations can impact men's well-being and learn the importance of building supportive relationships. David and Loni share valuable insights into creating an environment where men feel comfortable expressing their emotions without fear of judgment.
With a mix of heartfelt discussions and practical advice, this episode aims to empower listeners to challenge the norms and support the mental health of the men in their lives. Tune in to be part of the conversation and help break the silence surrounding men's mental health.

Navigating Road Rage: Who Let David in the Chat?

Join hosts David Stigma and Loni as they delve into the intense emotions and challenges of road rage in this insightful episode. David shares personal experiences of dealing with road rage and offers a candid look at how hypervigilance and anxiety can affect one's driving experience.
The discussion explores various techniques and strategies to manage road rage, including grounding exercises, pre-planning, and the use of stress-relief tools. David and Loni emphasize the importance of acknowledging and validating emotions while offering practical methods to stay calm and focused behind the wheel.
With humor and honesty, the hosts provide listeners with a range of coping mechanisms, from scream-singing to stress balls, to help transform a potentially stressful car ride into a more manageable experience. Whether you're a driver or passenger, this episode offers valuable insights into maintaining control and practicing self-care on the road.

For the Love of It: Catfishing the Catfish

Join David Stigma and Loni in this engaging episode of the "David the Stigma" podcast as they dive into the quirkiest of conversations, from frog-butt-sucking fish to the surprising allure of catfish toes. This episode is a blend of humor and heartfelt insights, exploring the concept of doing things "for the love of it" and the importance of authenticity in our actions.
Through entertaining anecdotes and thoughtful discussions, David and Loni reflect on the difference between selfless and selfish motivations. Whether it's feeding the homeless or simply singing into a spatula while making mac and cheese, the duo emphasizes that true fulfillment comes from genuine intentions, free from expectations of reciprocity.
As they share personal stories, from dramatic ocean experiences to the joy of solitude, David and Loni encourage listeners to set healthy boundaries, stand up for themselves, and find happiness in their unique way. They also touch on family dynamics, societal expectations, and the idea of loving from afar when necessary.
Concluding with a nod to Brene Brown's "Atlas of the Heart," the episode offers a blueprint for living with honor and integrity, urging everyone to do things for the right reasons—be it in relationships, work, or personal hobbies. Tune in for a mix of laughter, wisdom, and a reminder to be kind to yourself and others.

A Journey of Self-Expression: Body Mods, Tattoos and Mosquito Pools

Join David Stigma and Loni in the sixth episode as they dive into the world of tattoos and body modifications, exploring how these forms of self-expression have shaped their lives. David shares his personal journey, revealing how tattoos have become an integral part of his identity and a path to self-empowerment.
The hosts discuss the societal perceptions of body art, tackling stereotypes and misconceptions surrounding heavily tattooed individuals. They highlight how the acceptance of tattoos in professional environments has evolved over time, emphasizing that success is defined by passion and fulfillment rather than external judgments.
Throughout the episode, David and Loni reflect on the artistry involved in tattoos, comparing it to other forms of art and self-expression. They address the importance of respecting personal boundaries and the significance of leaving a positive impact through kindness and understanding.
Tune in to discover how tattoos can be both a personal journey and a broader cultural conversation, celebrating individuality and the freedom to express one's true self.

Understanding Domestic Violence: Don’t “should” on Another

Join hosts David Stigma and Loni in Episode 7 as they delve into the complex and multifaceted issue of domestic violence. They describe it as a "hydra" with many heads, including financial control, mental, physical, and emotional abuse. This episode serves as both an exploration and a personal reflection, with the hosts sharing their experiences and offering insights into the challenges victims face.
Listeners are reminded of the difficulty victims have in leaving abusive situations, highlighting the importance of empathy and understanding in supporting those affected. The discussion touches upon societal expectations, or lack thereof, in showing kindness and the role of personality disorders in domestic violence cases.
The episode concludes with practical advice for those in potentially dangerous situations, emphasizing the importance of recognizing distress signals and being informed. David and Loni encourage service industry workers, particularly in bars and restaurants, to educate themselves on these signals to potentially save lives. Tune in for an eye-opening and compassionate conversation on a critical issue.

Unexpected Lessons: A Road Trip of Coping and Growth

In this episode, David and Loni navigate a chaotic week filled with unexpected turns, including a last-minute football game road trip that tested their patience. With an 11-year-old's surprising resilience as their guide, they find joy and laughter amidst the chaos, learning valuable lessons in coping and optimism.
Join them as they explore the profound impacts of intrinsic motivation and the challenges of loving an addict. Through personal stories and insights, they discuss the delicate balance between support and enabling, and the importance of allowing individuals to find their own path to recovery.
With humor and honesty, David and Lonnie share their experiences of overcoming addiction, emphasizing the power of self-love and personal growth. Tune in for an inspiring conversation about finding beauty in the journey and learning from unexpected sources.

Embracing Autonomy: Navigating Personal Freedom

Join hosts David Stigma and Loni as they delve into the intricate topic of autonomy in this thought-provoking episode. Reflecting on their personal experiences, they discuss the impact of autonomy on childhood development and how it shapes our adult lives, relationships, and self-worth.
Explore the challenges and importance of providing autonomy to loved ones, especially in parenting, and the potential consequences when it's denied. David and Loni share their insights on overcoming fears and societal pressures, emphasizing the significance of small victories and self-empowerment.
The episode also tackles the sensitive issue of physical autonomy, the necessity of consent, and the societal implications of controlling others. With candid conversations about relationships, trust, and personal boundaries, they highlight the importance of communication and mutual respect.
Tune in for an engaging discussion that encourages listeners to embrace their own autonomy, understand their self-worth, and foster healthier connections with those around them.